I have realized that we just keep learning the same things over and over again just from slightly different perspectives- like we are going around the same tree, just making wider circles and if we stop and look up we see that we've been here before, we're just a little further removed this time around- we still deal with all the same feelings of inadequacy and self doubt that we experienced as teens only they are a little more refined now - the lack of experience justified our doubts then and the abundance of experience justifies our doubts now- - I saw a bumper sticker that said "the only normal people are the ones you dont know yet" - yup yup -how stinkin true is that- we look at people and assume from their actions house children car makeup calendar take your pick that they have a plan, they are all put together , they know what they are doing, they are comfortable with themselves when in all actuality we look like that for certain snippets of time too! life is a very messy business and so is growth - may we all be blessed enough to realize that -- really realize (make it real) i~~~~~ we are the normal ones baby! you and me~yup yup!